Verbalizing the sexual roles we want and hearing what our partners want to do to us is essential in sexual arousal. Ava Cadell, professional speaker, writer, and sex therapist in Los Angeles, Calif., couples engage in dirty talk to “heighten their arousal and share fantasies that they may not want to turn into reality, but talking about them can be even better.”Committing sexual acts and talking dirty involve two completely different mindsets.
Dirty talk is something we do by ourselves, as opposed to physical sex acts.
A woman who calls up her partner at work to say to him “when you come home sweetheart, I'm going to let you tie me to the bedpost, handcuff me, and arrest me," says Walfish, is vocalizing her fantasy outside the bedroom."One possibility is maybe she has a dependent personality and maybe she likes the idea of submitting to a dominant, powerful force," she said.
"Or maybe she fantasizes about being the dominant one and is afraid to put that on to her guy to do it first, so she tests the waters."Basically, when we assume a persona via dirty talk or role playing, we have an easier time being sexual.
The preoptic area, involved in mating behavior, is over two times larger in men than women and contains two times more cells.
Meanwhile, the superchiasmatic nucleus, involved with circadian rhythms and reproduction cycles differs in shape: Males have a nucleus that is shaped like a sphere, while women have more of an elongated one.
April Masini, relationship expert and author, told : “Talking dirty can enhance sex because it's another layer of sexual behavior beyond physical sexual acts.”Dirty talk can also arouse partners to the point of orgasm.
Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills psychotherapist, author of found the more comfortable we are talking about sex, the more satisfactory our sex lives will become.
A larger hypothalamus for men means more circulating testosterone to stimulate the desire for sex.
A lower testosterone level and a smaller hypothalamus in women, on the other hand, means their sex drive is not as strong as a man’s.
Sexuality creates intimacy for a couple and becomes the glue of the relationship.
Good sex is a barometer of a good relationship.“Sex isn't just a physical release or an expression of love and affection.